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Affirmations for Confidence

· Spiritual Growth

Are you searching for ways to build your confidence? Reading these affirmations for confidence is a great way to speak life into yourself and allow yourself to believe the things that make you so beautiful and cherished.

Affirmations for Confidence

Do you ever wish somebody would just inject you with confidence? Like, wouldn’t it be nice to receive it as a daily vitamin? Maybe one day somebody smarter than me will create such product. Until then, I have the next best thing. The following list of affirmations for confidence is the daily boost of soul healing you need to remind yourself of how powerful and magnificent you are but first lets talk about the good and the bad.

Are affirmations Biblical?

If you love Jesus, you are probably like me and tend to avoid anything that comes across as new-age or avoid practicing things which don’t point directly to Christ. A common misconception amongst Christians is that giving yourself affirmation isn’t Biblical because the thinking goes, God gives you what you need, therefore you don’t need to give to yourself. Additionally, you don’t want to make yourself an idol by praising yourself because God is the only one to be praised.

While those things are absolutely true, unfortunately being a Christ-follower doesn’t come pre-packaged with confidence and you should never feel bad for lacking self-confidence because you are a christian. We are human beings who experience the rise and fall of emotions and life experiences that affect us no regardless of where we place our faith. In other words, being a christian doesn’t make you immune to things like lack of self-esteem and confidence.

So to combat this, I think the best thing we can do is to affirm ourselves as who God says we are. We know from scripture that God is for us and as long as we give God the honor, we have permission to affirm and reinforce the person God created us to be. On top of that, I’d like to point you to the book of Psalms where David did both Praise God and affirm the person God created him to be. Just look at Psalms 16 to see how David did this.

How do affirmations help?

For one thing, affirming your confidence will only help if you say them consistently. For example, telling yourself one time that you are powerful isn’t going to change much. But if you consistently tell yourself over and over, day after day that you are powerful, eventually you believe it. Eventually you will own that part of yourself because it’s not something you just simply believe anymore, it becomes more than that. It becomes part of your characteristic makeup. Part of your essence.

Affirmations for confidence help in the sense that it builds trust in yourself and the One who created you. How many times do you second-guess yourself about something only to believe it once somebody else validates it for you. We look to other people to affirm all kinds of things about us but we overlook the one person we should be affirming which is ourselves.

How are affirmations harmful?

This will not come as a surprise to you when I say that we should be careful about which affirmations we enforce to ourselves. In my post what is self-esteem and why is it important, I talk about how we are to be accurate in our assessments of abilities, character and talents. I think there is a big difference between affirming things we desire to be true, and trying to affirm things which can never be true. Let me give you an example.

I’m not an artist. Not by a long shot. I can’t even draw stick figures correctly in a game of Telestrations. I know this about myself and I’m comfortable with this fact. But if I were to affirm to myself, “Bethany you are such a great artist. you are capable of being a great artist” This would be damaging to me because it’s a lie. This is simply not my gift in life.

The point of using affirmations is to build trust with yourself, not lie about your capabilities! You do not want to get caught up in affirming a lie about yourself because that doesn’t get you anywhere so when you read through these affirmations, be sure to first check for any which do not apply to you.

How to practice affirmations

Some of this is going to come down to personal preference but the good news is that there are many ways to get comfortable with affirming yourself if one method doesn’t feel good to you. Some choose to stand in front of a mirror and say it out loud, some prefer to sit quietly and read them over and over. Some prefer to write them down daily. Others like to incorporate it into their prayer life.

Whatever you choose, I recommend staying consistent with that method. The more you practice in the same way in the same spot the more you will look forward to your tiny slice of “me” time and come to regard it as special and sacred. The trick is to repeat them however many times you need to but 3x minimum works best.

Don’t worry if this feels a little weird if you haven’t tried it. It may feel uncomfortable because you aren’t used to receiving this much praise in such a short amount of time. But I just ask you to try it especially the ones you struggle with. Try journaling how you feel before and after the exercise and chart it out over time so you can see how this might be helping you to grow your confidence.

I purposefully kept this list to 35 affirmations because I think sometimes any more than that can be overwhelming. One thing I like to do is take 5 at a time and only focus on 5 affirmations daily for 30 days as a way to reinforce these truths within a reasonable time.

Affirmations

  1. I am fearfully and wonderfully made
  2. I am loved
  3. I am enough
  4. I am worthy
  5. I am God’s masterpiece
  6. I am chosen
  7. I am powerful
  8. I am forgiven
  9. I am capable
  10. I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me
  11. I can do hard things
  12. I can delegate
  13. I can survive
  14. I can flourish
  15. I can be confident
  16. I can grow
  17. I can prosper
  18. I can succeed
  19. I have wisdom
  20. I have freedom
  21. I have permission to be me
  22. I have the right to say how I feel
  23. I have God’s protection over my life
  24. God fights for me
  25. God cherishes me
  26. God waits for me
  27. God forgives me
  28. God is patient with me
  29. I give myself grace
  30. I give of myself to others
  31. I give generously
  32. I respect myself
  33. I value myself
  34. I choose how to respond
  35. I choose God’s will over my own

Closing

Have you tried giving affirmations of confidence to yourself? Tell us how it worked for you in the comments below. If you’d like to see an affirmations for confidence plan, let me know in the comment section or send me a note so I can help.

Bethany

What is Self-Esteem and Why is it Important?

· Spiritual Growth

Wondering what self-esteem is and why you should care about it? This post will explore the ins and outs of self-esteem and why it is important in your own life.

What is self-esteem and why is it important?
What is Self-Esteem and Why is it Important?

What is Self-Esteem?

Self-esteem is defined in the dictionary as, “a confidence and satisfaction in oneself: Self respect.” Another definition quotes,”confidence in one’s own worth or abilities; self-respect.” But the way I like to look at self-esteem is simply to ask, “how much do you value yourself?”

It’s not exactly an easy answer. You see, we tend to view value in terms of monetary payoff. But you can’t put a price tag on a human life so we need to look at how we define value. Let’s go back to the dictionary, and dig a little deeper shall we?

Value: defined in the dictionary as, “relative worth, merit, or importance.” with the verb defined as, “to consider with respect to worth, excellence, usefulness, or importance.” You’re probably thinking, umm this just causes more questions and you’d be right. Bear with me as we untangle these definitions because I promise it will all make sense.

Now that we have the definitions of self-esteem and value, we need to define what this means for us as individuals. Here are some of the questions I pull from these definitions when trying to figure out how they actually apply to us.

  1. How much do you value yourself?
  2. How important are you?
  3. How useful are you?
  4. How excellent are you?
  5. How much do you respect yourself?

The goal in asking these questions isn’t to score you on these things- there is no grade for this. The goal is to get you to pinpoint how you feel about yourself. For example, you might feel important to the people close to you, to the ones that need you, but do you feel important to the world? Why or why not? Do you consider yourself useful? Why or why not? Do you think you are excellent? Why or why not? Think about how you would answer these questions to help you understand where you can improve your self-esteem.

Value in others vs ourselves

As women, we get busy with the things we need to get done, the people we need to see, the relationships we need to foster, the job we need to do, the children we need to care for, etc, that we often forget to take time to truly define ourselves. The good news is we seem to know value when we see it. For example, how many of us see one of our friends dating a guy we don’t think is good enough for her? How many times do we look our friend in the eye and say, girl, he just doesn’t respect you, he doesn’t see your value!

We tend to see value in our friends and loved ones, but we don’t see it enough in ourselves. To further illustrate this point, If you were to make a list of all the things that make you excellent and I asked your friends and loved ones to make a list about what makes you excellent, 9 times out of 10 their list will be longer. Why is that? Why do we see value in others but not ourselves?

Pride vs Self-Esteem

My theory on why we see value in others but not ourselves is that I think we, and especially we as christian women, don’t want to be prideful or boastful. And since I’m getting good at definitions, I’ll add another one here. Pride: “pleasure or satisfaction taken in something done by or belonging to oneself or believed to reflect credit upon oneself.” The Bible talks about this in Proverbs 11:2 “When pride comes, then comes disgrace, but with humility comes wisdom.” and again in Proverbs 16:5 “The Lord detests all the proud of heart. Be sure of this: They will not go unpunished.” And the one you’ve heard before, Proverbs 16:18 ” Pride goes before destruction, a haughty spirit before a fall.”

Whew! Those are some strong words! No wonder it’s easy for us to steer clear of talking about our importance, or our “excellence”. We don’t want to come near the thought of being prideful so it’s easier for us to just discount or disregard some of the great things that make us who we are. Sadly, as a result, we tend to have a lower self-esteem and aren’t accurate in our assessment of who God designed us to be. When we don’t view our selves accurately, we miss out on opportunities to walk in our purpose. That’s why self-esteem for a christian is so important to understand.

Why Self-Esteem is so important

Self-esteem isn’t so much about viewing yourself as super valuable as it is about accurately assessing your capabilities, your gifts and talents, your characteristics and what you offer this world. As I mentioned in this post, God created you with purpose for a purpose. If you are over here telling yourself you aren’t important, that you aren’t capable, in other words experiencing low self-esteem, How will you ever reach your full potential and the purpose that God designed for you live out?

Let me tell you a story about a friend of mine who went through this recently. My friend Anna has a beautiful voice, she’s the type of singer that when you close your eyes and listen, you feel like you’ve been transported into a place all by yourself, no matter how many people are in the room. For months, her friends and family tried to convince her to try out for her church’s worship team but instead she insisted she couldn’t sing well enough. She kept comparing herself to the current singers on the team and gave every excuse in the book. “I can’t hit high notes”, “I’m too young”, “I like singing by myself better anyways” these were just some of her excuses.

Next thing we know, the lead singer of the worship band chose to step down opening up a spot made just for her. God had opened the door, all she had to do was walk through it. Except, she didn’t. She chose to believe that her talent was not enough, that somebody else could sing better.

You see, Anna did not accurately assess her talents nor did she didn’t trust God with the gift he had given her even after several open doors. I look at that example and think, if only she had better self-esteem, she would be living out her purpose for this season in life but instead, she wasted her talent.

Sisters, I do not want that for you. One day, we are going to stand at the seat of judgement, and we will be asked, “What did you do with the talents I gave you? What did you do with the time and money I gave you? Did you know my son?” I want us all to live a life that will be rewarded in heaven one day but none of us will get there with low self-esteem.

To reiterate, the reason why self-esteem is so important is because it is what gives you the confidence to walk in your purpose. To be obedient when God is calling you to something. Self-esteem will hold you back and none of that is worth it if it threatens your moment at the seat of judgement.

Importance of Encouraging Self-Esteem in Others

While this post has been mainly dedicated to you and the way you view yourself, I want to pivot for a minute to talk about how important it is to build self-esteem in others. Some of you may have grown up without anybody to help you build your self-esteem so it may be more difficult for you to help others see their own value. But I want to encourage you especially if you struggle to see your own worth to perhaps start with helping somebody else. You might think you’re unqualified and I would tell you that’s just your low self-esteem talking! -kidding, but not really. You have what it takes because if you didn’t, you wouldn’t be reading this right now.

I just want to take a little bit of pressure off because I think it’s easy for us to read about the importance of self-esteem especially when I’m throwing out that part about the seat of judgment- geez- you think I could be a little softer? haha- and want to do something about it. And if that’s you, I’m so proud of you! And this may sound weird but sometimes the best way to help yourself is to help somebody else first. By helping another person see their value, you’ll be more in tune for what good parts of you that you are able to recognize. You might find for example that you have a servants heart, or you’re a good listener, whatever it is, you will discover it in the process of asking somebody else to hold the mirror up to themselves. Just try it and let me know how it goes.

Besides, the Bible says to. 1 Thessalonians 3:11 “Therefore encourage one another and build each other up, just as in fact you are doing. May the God who gives endurance and encouragement give you the same attitude of mind toward each other that Christ Jesus had.”

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